A few years ago I was dating a very shy man and our relationship collapsed because I couldn’t meet his basic needs and I couldn’t understand fundamental things about being an introvert.
Most people, and I was no exception, credit numerous stereotypes about introverts.
And if you’re an outgoing extrovert, it may be especially challenging to rationalize with the softly spoken, quiet relative of extroversion.
In fact, people are often drawn towards introverts to have conversations about personal experiences and events they’ve experienced.This is because introverts are typically great listeners.People who tend to make the most noise and attract the most visibility also tend to be the ones who get the most attention… But just because you’re more introverted doesn’t mean that you’re doomed to a life alone. Sometimes it just means having to change your dating strategy to play to your strengths.Before we talk about dating tips for introverts, it’s best to define at least some terms here…So, what should you remember when dating someone who’s more withdrawn than you? A different style of communication is the most striking and significant thing about dating an introverted man.
My boyfriend kept silent most of the time; thus I had to carry on most of the conversation, which was tiresome at times.It took only a few weeks of this before I realized that dating was taking its toll and that I was becoming bad at it — failing to respond to texts and messages in a timely manner, rushing through dates with people I felt little connection with and, eventually finding myself leaving all of my dates with a nagging desire for the solace of my quiet apartment.That was when I realized that I was doing it all wrong, that I was tapping out and turning inward because I was jogging at an extrovert’s pace, even though I'm an introvert.Dating an introvert is simple, as long as you’re aware of the characteristics of your introverted partner.Many people tend to think that introversion is a negative quality; it’s often associated with quiet, hard-to-talk-to individuals. Introverts are very easy people to talk to, especially in the proper setting.So I reassessed my dating approach to better align with my energy levels and need for depth over breadth.