That, I say to my young single friends, is a picture of sex in the proper context.
We wrestle with this issue more now because the time span between reaching the age of sexual maturity and marriage has bumped up a decade or two since biblical times. Then I point them to Exodus -17, a very interesting "case law" Scripture in the Old Testament. then ..." commands that provides some underlying principles applicable beyond the example used.
I also add that we probably wouldn't even be having this conversation were it not for birth control, especially the "pill," and if abortions were not so easy to obtain. What you really want, I say, is a Scripture that goes something like, if Jack and Jill are not married to anyone nor to each other, and not engaged to anyone nor to each other, and have sex with each other, that's wrong, and that they should either stop having sex or get married. For instance, when Scripture says in Exodus 23:4, "if you come across your enemy's ox or donkey wandering off, then take it back to him," the application extends beyond oxen and donkeys, to dogs, children, bicycles, credit cards, etc.
Before you indulge in it, there is usually a voice that queries you whether or not it is a right or wrong action. But the bible is the best moral book, and what does the bible say about premarital sex.
The Bible refers to it as FORNICATION, fornication is defined as sexual intercourse between people who are not married to each other.
They know about the adultery prohibitions, and they agree — you shouldn't have sex with someone who is someone else's spouse. You've "aroused love before its time." There will be pain, disappointment and sadness. The couples' sexual life in the Song of Solomon takes place within the context of a lifelong commitment of marriage, and the community rejoices.
They want to know, where, exactly, does the Bible talk about pre- or extra-marital sex, when neither partner is married. A private affair is being forced out into the public and is clouded by shame.
For the LORD knows the way of the righteous, but the way of the ungodly shall perish Your leaving the church is a typical reaction to sin.
Therefore the ungodly shall not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous.
Yet the body is not for immorality, but for the Lord; and the Lord is for the body… Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body…
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? For you have been bought with a price; therefore glorify God in your body. See our helpful Sex, Love and Relationships Web site—find answers to your questions.
In earlier centuries, young adults were expected to court with the intention of finding a marriage partners rather than for social reasons.