For every woman that’s into big, burly dudes, there’s another who’s into scrawny little twig dudes. For every type of man, there’s a woman out there who thinks that’s perfect.So stop beating yourself up and realize that there are women who are going to like your body how it is.Societal standards of beauty are not only arbitrary but often literally impossible to achieve without Photoshop and make-up and there are assholes out there who feel empowered to mock fat people with impunity.
This message didn’t fall on deaf ears and I know, I am not alone.Many women and men out there have grown up with similar messaging from the ones they love.In my forthcoming book “Date Smarter – The Savvy Singles Guide to Navigating the Dating Maze” I share with my readers some of the battles I had growing up and the impact it had on my dating life and self-esteem early on.As an overweight child my mother taught me year after year and one crash diet after another that fat equaled ugly.Hitting the Gym: Do It For YOURSELF I urge all men to hit the gym and offer it as one of the dating tips for guys of all sizes. What’s more, if you’re overweight that can be related to a lot of major health problems.
So hit the gym, but not because it’s going to get you all the women.The first thing to work on is your confidence and self assurance, and you’ll realize that the rest of the things have begun falling into place.Just remember that if a man has asked you out on a date, then he knows that you are fat and he doesn’t really care about how much you weigh.Large dudes will frequently lament that their size automatically disqualifies them from dating – they believe that there is simply no way a woman could possibly like somebody who’s body isn’t rippled and shiny like a buttered ear of corn. Kevin Smith, for all of his fashion sins that I will get into in a second, is happily married with a lovely wife and daughter. It’s easy to forget this when the TV and magazines are showing you nothing but image after image of cut, veiny men with swimmers builds with women draped all over them like fur stoles, but women actually like a far wider range of body types than we’d think.Ask five women what their ideal male build is and you’ll get six different answers.Anyway, here is help on how you can look your best, on your date, despite being overweight.