Eddie answers questions and gives advice on issues you want to hear about. Can a Christian and a non-Christian date, fall in love, be genuinely happy, get married and do great things for the world? There are countless follower/non-follower relationships that would be viewed as phenomenal by any standard.Email your questions to [email protected]] I’m dating a woman and I really like her. She’s an incredible person who teaches me so much and is kind and everything you’d hope for in a mate, but she just doesn’t buy into Jesus. And before you start getting all nervous that I’m about to drop the axe on this sweet thing you’ve got going, know that I’m not about to tell you to break up immediately. Additionally, it is possible for you to follow Jesus and bear fruit throughout your life even if your dating relationship isn’t rooted in Christ. But somewhere, at some point, you’re going to realize that you are building a life on two different foundations.Many want to know how they can go about getting to know someone and eventually getting married without getting hurt or compromising their faith.
Type the word "dating" into your Bible search tool, and what comes up? I remember wishing there was an entire book of the Bible dedicated to the topic when I was single, or at least a chapter.
Now, I get emails from singles across the country looking for guidance on who and how to date.
Within that struggle, inevitably the question comes up: Can a Christian date a non-Christian?
The Bible addresses the hardships that come with marrying a nonbeliever, so that's rather clear.
But single Christians may be tempted to say, "Well, it doesn't talk about dating. " To answer, it's important to take a step back and look at some principles found in Scripture.
In "The Un Guide to Dating," a he said/she said look at adult dating relationships, authors Camerin Courtney and Todd Hertz discuss why the temptations – and dangers – of dating non-Christians are very real. Todd: My friend Steve isn’t a Christian, so I was surprised when he introduced me to his new girlfriend: a committed member of my church. There, with members of my Bible study, a friend and I quizzed our fellow member Emily about the guy she was spending more and more time with. Emily assured us he was a “really great guy” and that we needn’t worry since they were “just friends.” Well, three months later these “just friends” were dating.
While many start off with intentions of finding a godly partner, with each passing year the waiting feels longer and the hoping gets harder.
Slowly, we can find ourselves starting to second-guess our original standards, wondering if we've been too extreme or unrealistic.
If I didn’t know the dangers of dating a non-Christian already, Emily’s story only underscored how tricky it can be.
[Life 201 is a weekly advice column headed by pastor, counselor and RELEVANT Podcast member Eddie Kaufholz.
The system today's young men and women have inherited for finding and marrying a future spouse leaves a lot to be desired.