Biblical Christians, however, are called to think differently.
The first rule in dating is the first rule in all of life: “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength” (Mark ).You will not truly love anyone else if you do not love God first and most.If you’ve never studied it, you may want to before you further your relationship.My beloved is dazzling and ruddy, outstanding among ten thousand.He captures our into his goal and plan for our life: to make disciples who love him with all their heart, soul, mind, and strength. Will we trust him, even when we want something else for ourselves?
If our heart is not there — if our soul is not already safe through faith, if our mind is distracted and focused on other, lesser things, if our best strength is being spent on the things of this world — jobs, sports, shopping, entertainment, relationships, and on God — we simply will not date well. Listen to Jesus, and “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” Seek him first (Matthew ), and dating will be added according to his perfect plan and timing. It’s not the first rule, but I have found that it is a “golden rule” that most often makes the difference between healthy and unhealthy Christian dating relationships.
We are to take every thought, every area of our lives captive to the word of God.
Thankfully, "attraction" does play a role in finding a husband or wife. Biblically, however, attraction as the world understands it cannot be the foundation on which a godly marriage is built.
His head is like gold, pure gold; his locks are like clusters of dates and black as a raven.
His eyes are like doves beside streams of water, bathed in milk, and reposed in their setting.
It also should be noted that there is a difference between potential godliness and actual godliness.