However, a relationship or a marriage with an older man is not as sweet as it may seem.There are a lot of risks, difficulties, and pitfalls that women face when dating older men.Ivret Williams, counselling psychologist, said age is not really just a number and there are differences in health, ideologies and people’s lifestyles that come with the era they’re from. He may say that he comes to the table with more resources and it might end up being an, ‘I know more than you, I’m more experienced, more powerful’ sort of thing. Experts say if either sex is up to 10 years older then it is usually not a problem, but once you pass that threshold it’s like dealing with a different generation as the ideologies and way of life are usually different,” she said.
The intensity of the problem depends on the age difference.
If this difference is significant, then there is a high probability that partners will never reach harmony and mutual understanding because they talk to each other in two different languages.
I always seem to date guys between 10 to 20 years older than me, and from my relationships comes some of the best memories and experiences.
I still get the common response from my friends: “He's too old for you! ” I've also had a few people in my life suggest that I do it because I am a “gold digger.”So, the broad answer is this: To clarify, I'm not dating older men because I am a “gold digger.” It's more important for me to pull my own weight and be financially stable.
DATING an older man can have its perks — upward social mobility, wise advice, maturity, resources and a host of other things, but despite the glitz and glamour, there can be a few disadvantages.
While such a relationship might provide upward social mobility for the younger person and people might argue that age is just a number, there are certain conditionalities that come with dating a man your senior, especially if he’s twice or thrice your age. Controlling Williams said the older man can be controlling from several angles. at ironic dive bars and/or feels awesome going to parties where he only know three people.Like "playing the triangle in a Mississippi-by-way-of-Brooklyn jug band," or "Kickstarting a docudrama series he plans to direct, produce, write and star in" or "enjoying a long and fulfilling career that is also his passion and will never require him to do anything he doesn't want to do." Oh, dear. His lack of direction inevitably leads you to start sounding like his parents — sometimes at inappropriate moments, like when your top is off. He still wants to have intellectual discussions with you over dinner because he misses the ones he had in college.’ and might even start limiting the time she spends with her friends,” she said. Health differences “Age is definitely not just a number here,” Williams said.But she said while there are older men who are fit and don’t have pot bellies, as you age illnesses may step in and in such instances things may fall apart. Ridicule According to Williams, there are older men who really are fit and keep themselves looking good and attractive; however, where the woman is concerned, she may be ridiculed and accused of being with him because of the perks. We welcome reader comments on the top stories of the day. However, our advertising department can be more than accommodating if emailed: [email protected] If readers wish to report offensive comments, suggest a correction or share a story then please email: [email protected] She also said that he might be adventurous and might want to know what’s happening with the younger generation. Different interests The counselling psychologist said the older man might not share the interests of the younger person, which can be problematic and lead to jealousy.